Why my parents don't understand me?

Why my parents don't understand me?

Yes , this is the most frequent question in the mind of teenagers -

 •"Why my parents don't understand me ? "

 • "Why they don't pay attention to my words?"

 •" Why they don't allow me to do this or that ?"

Well it might be possible that your way of thinking and their way of thinking won't match , but every problem has a solution .

As always I am here to take you out of it .

• Talking to Your Parents -

Sure, you talk to your parents , you cannot deal everything alone or this thing cannot be solved without sharing what you actually feel , what you actually want ? So the best start is to talk to your parents about what you actually think , but remember you cannot start the conversation like " Why you guys don't understand me ? " This might hurt them or will make no sense. Start from sharing some of the incidents where you wanted them to be with your decision / do something which makes them realise that you can also be right too ( no offensive act) .

It's easy to say "Hi, Mom" or "Dad, can you pass the salt ?" It can be harder to start talking about personal topics. Still, it's good to confide in your parents. In fact, it can help a lot.

• Be Brave and Start Talking -

Let's face it, talking about personal stuff can feel embarrassing. But remember, your parents know you pretty well — and they were your age once, too! So don't let a little embarrassment stop you. It's OK to go ahead and share what's on your mind. 

Talking about this things will make you stress free , will clear your doubts - that they really understand you or not ! Remember no parents want to see their child in pain or stress , and bottling up your feelings can make you feel stressed , better share it .

Some kids might think if they share a problem, they'll make  parent worried or upset. But your mom or dad can handle knowing about your problem, big or small. If they look concerned, it just means they care, and that they feel for you. 

Some kids might not bring up a problem because they just don't want to think about it — and hope it will just go away. But sweeping a problem under the rug hardly ever solves it. 

• How to Start ?

Do you need to talk about something important? Try these tips: 

• Decide who you want to talk to. 

• Pick a good time and place to talk. 

• Think about what you need. 

• Think of what you'll say. 

Once you get started, your mom or dad will listen and talk, too. Then you can have more of a back-and-forth discussion.

Communication tips -

Give details that can help parents understand your situation. Explain what you think, feel, and want.

Explain your situation. 

• Be honest. 

• Try to understand their side. 

• Try not to argue or whine. 

• Share the good stuff, too. 

Conclusion : Every parent love their kids , they might look strict sometimes , but they always want your good , they have been through your age , they know what's good for you and what's not .

Written by - Aayushi Singh .